Mom Nelda was more to me than any one will ever know. She was my Angel sent to my Dad to love and protect him and she gave my Dad back to me. If not for Momma Nelda I would not have known my Dad. Mom was more than just the woman who married my Dad. She was sent from God to be my Momma and to love me like her own. We loved one another immensely and she never treated me like I was less than her own child.I just lved her and never wanted anything more from her than the love she gave to me. Mom's heart was big enough to love the entire world. No matter what she loved everyone, unconditionally. She may not have liked everyone so very much, but she never didn't love them. Mom never stood in judgment of us kids no matter how much made challenged her. Mom would just love us, even when it was her that got hurt, guide us and help us to push on and become better people. Always, even from a distance in miles, she was hugging us kids. I am so thankful to God for giving Mom to me and blessing my life with such a beautiful, kind hearted, loving Mom. I know she is where she wants to be now, home with God and Dad, and that makes her leaving a little easier. Knowing that she is dancing with Dad, pain free and being able to breathe makes all the heartache of losing her so worth it. Knowing that she is with Dad makes everything worth it. Mom will always be loved, adored and missed.
Donna Rice Lobocki
January 17th, 2009 at 12:00am
STEP-SISTER When I was a child, I didn't know what that meant-let alone that I had 2 of them. My father(their step-father)always felt that the only steps in our home, were the ones we walked on. My sisters, Nelda and Andy(Andrea) were my big sisters. Treated the same as us 5 younger girls, no more, no less, the same love, the same discipline. Nelda was my eldest sister, my protector, pseudo-mother, confidant and friend. She would tell people how when I was very small, she loved taking care of me and on one occasion I stated to my mother, "You not my Mama, she my Mama." As sisters she was always there for all of us. Whether it was someone to talk to, a needed place to stay, someone to chew your ass if you needed it, or if all you needed was a meal and a fresh cup of coffee, Nelda's door was always open to not only her sisters and family, but to many who would cross her path throughtout her life. As a mother she was one of the best! Always patient, always kind, yet would give a good whack on the back-side when needed. Bob, Kevin, Obie, Missy and Mark-she loved you more than any words I can think to write. Praising all of your accomplishments, and like most moms, over-looking your faults. Her grandchildren and great-grandchildren were to her more important and valuable than the fine jewels in a queen's crown. she was so proud and pleased to be able to attend Steve and Chelsea's wedding. What a wonderful memory to cherish. Unable to afford Christmas presents this past Christmas for her children and grandchildren was difficult for Nelda. So like always-Nelda gave what she could. She was so pleased to be able tobbuy something special for her only great-grandchildren, Lexey and Adam. As a mother-in-law, Nelda was loving, caring and treated her daughter-in-laws and son-in-law as one of the flock. Always equal and fair in all manner. As a wife to Jack and a step-mother to his children, she was beyond measure. Worrying about everyone, giving and loving all equally. She so loved Jack! When he died last May 10, 2006, a large part of my sister died also. We would talk on the phone, and many times when she was sad, she would say to me, "God Betty, I miss Jack more than any of you can know" So, it is with broken heart and tear filled eyes that I write this letter about my sister Nelda. As a friend, Nelda was like no-other. Ready to give unconditionally of her time, love, patience and to lend a sympathetic ear when needed. Her best friend Judy, of 43 years can attest to this quality. She played a different role in all of our lives. She was a sister, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, mother-in-law, step-mother, faithful friend, and a loving wife. Nelda will surely be missed by all of us in our own way, with our own precious memories of her. God Bless you dear sister as you are now with others you love, who have gone to a better place than this one. No more pain. No more sorrow. No more struggle to breath. Joy, happiness and heavenly blessings are your world now. You are gone from this world, but never forgotten. Waiting, patiently with open arms for us all to be reunited again someday. May God hold you in the palm of his loving hands until we meet again when we cross to the next life at the end of our life's journey. I will think of you daily, speak of you often, love you forever. Until we meet again sister- I love You! Betty
Betty Duncna
January 23rd, 2009 at 12:00am